Last week the post I’d written last year, Don’t Fear the C-Section re-surfaced itself on Twitter courtesy of Kirstie Allsopp. She’d come across it via a hashtag I assume, read my piece and deemed it worth a re-tweet to her 399k followers. How terribly exciting for me and very flattering of course. I’ve watched her television programmes for years and was quite taken aback by such a compliment. Fully aware that this would be the first and last time my blog received any level of notoriety from the outside world, I allowed myself to get a bit giddy about it, told anyone who would listen and congratulated myself with a large glass of wine at the end of the day. Oh yeah.
Then I got to thinking about why she’d done that, what was her motivation. Why does she care what I think about C-Section births? Kirstie Allsopp is typically known as a broadcaster of property programmes and has made a living selling vintage home ware and interiors. So I had a good google on her and discovered that it was a topic close to her heart, something she’d written an open letter about a few years ago. Having had two Cesarean births herself, she’d taken an exception to the “too posh too push” stigma and spoken out about how we should be better prepared for the eventuality of a C-Section birth, as now 1 in 4 results in one. Turned out she’d started a bit of a debate. With many women supporting and thanking her for speaking out and others slating her for promoting unnecessary birth intervention. She’s not afraid to speak out about other women’s issues either from her opinions on marriage and banning homework. Through to acknowledging your fertility window and considering putting that first before your education and career. You may or may not agree with her opinions but at least she has some and there relative and real. I found it really refreshing to see a woman with influence sparking a discussion about something important that actually relates to my life.


We spend so much of our lives listening, following and admiring well known women who aren’t actually advocating for us in anyway, its bloody fabulous when one of them does. Take Katie Hopkins for example, (I know boo-hiss) at least she’s out there saying something about something. I don’t agree with everything she says but I value that she’s out there having an actual opinion of her own. She’s a woman with considerable influence, talking about real things, giving her honest unfiltered opinion and she wont apologise for it either. Yes, she’s controversial but isn’t that the point – she uses her influence to get people talking and debating and thinking. So many women with powerful influence aren’t using it for the good in any way. They are just trying to sell us the product that is themselves and their disgusting perfumes that smell like Febreeze dipped in marshmallows (I’m talking to you Britney). Can you imagine Cheryl Cole or Kim Kardashian ever talking about anything important, anything political? I’m sure they make huge donations to charities and participate in televised appeals but a few words on a critical subject could bring awareness or educate someone. Do you think Cheryl or Kim will ever retweet my article about George Osborne taxing my vagina?

No, nor do I (hehe).

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  • February 9, 2016 at 2:49 pm
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    I so didn't want either of my c sections. The first was an emergency I cried when they told me I had to go to theatre. I wanted to deliver my baby naturally. My second was elective due to the complications I had with my first and the consultant telling me I had a 7% chance of delivering naturally. I hate the too posh to push stigma I delivered my babies via c section as it was the only safe way to do so.

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  • February 9, 2016 at 2:49 pm
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    I so didn't want either of my c sections. The first was an emergency I cried when they told me I had to go to theatre. I wanted to deliver my baby naturally. My second was elective due to the complications I had with my first and the consultant telling me I had a 7% chance of delivering naturally. I hate the too posh to push stigma I delivered my babies via c section as it was the only safe way to do so.

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  • February 10, 2016 at 2:00 pm
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    What I love about this was that she chose your content to share because it resonated. Nothing to do with who you were just pure interest and something mutual in common. How wonderful is that. I agree with you about Katie H, although she does herself no favours sometimes, she speaks a lot of sense and isn't afraid to own it. I might not be George Osborne but I'm going to read your taxing the vag post! Well done. #MMWBH

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  • February 10, 2016 at 2:00 pm
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    What I love about this was that she chose your content to share because it resonated. Nothing to do with who you were just pure interest and something mutual in common. How wonderful is that. I agree with you about Katie H, although she does herself no favours sometimes, she speaks a lot of sense and isn't afraid to own it. I might not be George Osborne but I'm going to read your taxing the vag post! Well done. #MMWBH

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  • February 10, 2016 at 2:35 pm
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    I love a sister talking about things that matter. Like good ol' Charlie Church taking up the socialist cause (OK i am welsh so of course i'd drag her into it). But Katie Hopkins….eeeeeeek. I can't even.

    In conclusion tho, yes to women having a louder voice in the media about things that matter to women. Thumbs up! #mmwbh

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  • February 10, 2016 at 2:35 pm
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    I love a sister talking about things that matter. Like good ol' Charlie Church taking up the socialist cause (OK i am welsh so of course i'd drag her into it). But Katie Hopkins….eeeeeeek. I can't even.

    In conclusion tho, yes to women having a louder voice in the media about things that matter to women. Thumbs up! #mmwbh

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  • February 10, 2016 at 9:14 pm
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    You definitely deserved that big glass of wine. I would have probably had the bottle if Kirsty had retweeted one of my links! How exciting. And I agree – I have far more respect for real, high profile women with something worthwhile to say, even if I don't necessarily agree with it. I can't stand Katie Hopkins but I imagine a conversation with her would be far more interesting than anything Kim K would have to say. Just off to read about George Osbourne taxing your vagina! #MMWBH

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  • February 10, 2016 at 9:14 pm
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    You definitely deserved that big glass of wine. I would have probably had the bottle if Kirsty had retweeted one of my links! How exciting. And I agree – I have far more respect for real, high profile women with something worthwhile to say, even if I don't necessarily agree with it. I can't stand Katie Hopkins but I imagine a conversation with her would be far more interesting than anything Kim K would have to say. Just off to read about George Osbourne taxing your vagina! #MMWBH

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  • February 10, 2016 at 9:14 pm
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    You definitely deserved that big glass of wine. I would have probably had the bottle if Kirsty had retweeted one of my links! How exciting. And I agree – I have far more respect for real, high profile women with something worthwhile to say, even if I don't necessarily agree with it. I can't stand Katie Hopkins but I imagine a conversation with her would be far more interesting than anything Kim K would have to say. Just off to read about George Osbourne taxing your vagina! #MMWBH

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  • February 12, 2016 at 3:32 am
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    Hi Laura, yeah I hate that phrase! It also has the implication that a Csection is a quick and easy process but the pain and recovery time is long, it's not straight forward. At the end of the day it's what safest for Mother and baby that matters x

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  • February 12, 2016 at 3:32 am
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    Hi Laura, yeah I hate that phrase! It also has the implication that a Csection is a quick and easy process but the pain and recovery time is long, it's not straight forward. At the end of the day it's what safest for Mother and baby that matters x

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  • February 12, 2016 at 9:57 am
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    Wowzers! Congratulations, I read about Kirsty and her beliefs on c-sections in the news this weeks and as someone who has had two emergency c-sections I agree with everything she has said and am quite passionate about it!!! So much so that I have written a blog post about it for next week! You never know about Kim K or Cheryl retweeting I will keep my fingers crossed or should that be legs crossed 😉 #fabfriday

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  • February 12, 2016 at 9:57 am
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    Wowzers! Congratulations, I read about Kirsty and her beliefs on c-sections in the news this weeks and as someone who has had two emergency c-sections I agree with everything she has said and am quite passionate about it!!! So much so that I have written a blog post about it for next week! You never know about Kim K or Cheryl retweeting I will keep my fingers crossed or should that be legs crossed 😉 #fabfriday

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  • February 12, 2016 at 10:31 am
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    It´s great when women support other women. I had a natural birth with my first, which I wanted but I couldn´t get an epidural, found it an awful experience and wished I had a c-section due to all the problems I had afterwards. However, having had an emergency c-section for an ectopic last year I was soooo glad I didn´t have a c-section the first time and I have insisted on not having one this time. It´s such a huge decision to make and I think every woman should be free, without judgment to choose how she wants to birth. #picknmixfridays
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  • February 12, 2016 at 10:31 am
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    It´s great when women support other women. I had a natural birth with my first, which I wanted but I couldn´t get an epidural, found it an awful experience and wished I had a c-section due to all the problems I had afterwards. However, having had an emergency c-section for an ectopic last year I was soooo glad I didn´t have a c-section the first time and I have insisted on not having one this time. It´s such a huge decision to make and I think every woman should be free, without judgment to choose how she wants to birth. #picknmixfridays
    http://www.rockingmummysworld.wordpress.com

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  • February 12, 2016 at 10:56 am
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    That's so cool, I would have shouted it from the rooftops! Well done #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 10:56 am
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    That's so cool, I would have shouted it from the rooftops! Well done #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 11:59 am
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    I love women speaking out about issues that matter. I think I spent way to long totally sheltered and hiding my voice and so now I am loving listening to others opinions, even if I don't always agree I love to be challenged. My 3rd baby was a c-section birth, it broke my heart when they told me, and the recovery is so much worse than my 2 vaginal births. I felt I had let my baby down, I felt like my body had let us both down. But I had to get over it and be grateful we were both alive and healthy. But you know what, if some women make this choice then that is there choice to make, I don't think it's about being too posh, they are probably just really anxious. And in a way who can blame them when all we see on television is women stuck on a bed, sweating and screaming their heads off. I guess it makes for more dramatic TV watching but not all births are like that. My first birth was stressful, and I ended up on a bed and attached to a drip. My 2nd was so peaceful, I was naked, the lights were dimmed, I felt like I was almost having an out of body experience. My third was the c-section. We do what we do to have a healthy baby. Great post. #fabfriday

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  • February 12, 2016 at 11:59 am
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    I love women speaking out about issues that matter. I think I spent way to long totally sheltered and hiding my voice and so now I am loving listening to others opinions, even if I don't always agree I love to be challenged. My 3rd baby was a c-section birth, it broke my heart when they told me, and the recovery is so much worse than my 2 vaginal births. I felt I had let my baby down, I felt like my body had let us both down. But I had to get over it and be grateful we were both alive and healthy. But you know what, if some women make this choice then that is there choice to make, I don't think it's about being too posh, they are probably just really anxious. And in a way who can blame them when all we see on television is women stuck on a bed, sweating and screaming their heads off. I guess it makes for more dramatic TV watching but not all births are like that. My first birth was stressful, and I ended up on a bed and attached to a drip. My 2nd was so peaceful, I was naked, the lights were dimmed, I felt like I was almost having an out of body experience. My third was the c-section. We do what we do to have a healthy baby. Great post. #fabfriday

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  • February 12, 2016 at 12:32 pm
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    Wow – congrats on the Alsopp RT you big hitter you! Now, looking forward to reading your vagina tax article next! #PicknMix

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  • February 12, 2016 at 12:32 pm
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    Wow – congrats on the Alsopp RT you big hitter you! Now, looking forward to reading your vagina tax article next! #PicknMix

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  • February 12, 2016 at 12:46 pm
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    Wow how amazing having a real.life celebrity sharing your blog post. I haven't read that one (will have to later) but I'm sure it was very worthy,especially if the blog posts I have read of yours so far are anything g to go by. I haven't had a cesarean and tbh I wouldn't want one. I really don't understand why some people think it's the easy way out. “Too posh to push” is a saying that really grates on my nerves.

    #FabFridayPosts

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  • February 12, 2016 at 12:46 pm
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    Wow how amazing having a real.life celebrity sharing your blog post. I haven't read that one (will have to later) but I'm sure it was very worthy,especially if the blog posts I have read of yours so far are anything g to go by. I haven't had a cesarean and tbh I wouldn't want one. I really don't understand why some people think it's the easy way out. “Too posh to push” is a saying that really grates on my nerves.

    #FabFridayPosts

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  • February 12, 2016 at 1:01 pm
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    I don't know who either of these women are but now I want to know about them based on your article. Both of my boys were c-sections. My oldest was an emergency c-section and my second was my choice because I was so worried that if I went into labor what happened with my first would happen with my second. I almost lost my first born three times and I was sick throughout my second pregnancy because I lived in a badly moldy apartment so I wasn't willing to tempt fate. Thank you for bringing this to light! #effitfriday

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  • February 12, 2016 at 1:01 pm
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    I don't know who either of these women are but now I want to know about them based on your article. Both of my boys were c-sections. My oldest was an emergency c-section and my second was my choice because I was so worried that if I went into labor what happened with my first would happen with my second. I almost lost my first born three times and I was sick throughout my second pregnancy because I lived in a badly moldy apartment so I wasn't willing to tempt fate. Thank you for bringing this to light! #effitfriday

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  • February 12, 2016 at 1:58 pm
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    Ooh I love a bit of crafty Kirsty. Well done you. In regards to pushing or c-section it's totally up to the mum and what's the safest thing for the baby. Everybody is entitled to their own preference. #fabfridaypost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 1:58 pm
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    Ooh I love a bit of crafty Kirsty. Well done you. In regards to pushing or c-section it's totally up to the mum and what's the safest thing for the baby. Everybody is entitled to their own preference. #fabfridaypost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 2:08 pm
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    OMG, what a giggle! I love Kirstie and am a closet fan of Katie's. You're quite right, though…those with a platform should use them responsibly. “Febreeze dipped in marshmallows”…so freaking funny! x #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 2:08 pm
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    OMG, what a giggle! I love Kirstie and am a closet fan of Katie's. You're quite right, though…those with a platform should use them responsibly. “Febreeze dipped in marshmallows”…so freaking funny! x #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 4:13 pm
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    I can not imagine the pain of a c-section! All the pulling and tugging during the procedure is just too much. I don't understand why they had to be so rough. I have never had to experience one but it seems bad for mama in the long run. I don't think they give women enough options based on solely care rather than the money. They just do those things for the money most of the time not because it is actually life threatening situations.

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  • February 12, 2016 at 4:13 pm
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    I can not imagine the pain of a c-section! All the pulling and tugging during the procedure is just too much. I don't understand why they had to be so rough. I have never had to experience one but it seems bad for mama in the long run. I don't think they give women enough options based on solely care rather than the money. They just do those things for the money most of the time not because it is actually life threatening situations.

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  • February 12, 2016 at 4:29 pm
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    Definitely with you here, two emergency sections and I didn't want either of them. But they were the safest way for my boys to arrive. I hate the stigma that surrounds them, I hate the fact I needed them, I love the fact that they saved my boys. Off to go reading now 😉 x

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  • February 12, 2016 at 4:29 pm
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    Definitely with you here, two emergency sections and I didn't want either of them. But they were the safest way for my boys to arrive. I hate the stigma that surrounds them, I hate the fact I needed them, I love the fact that they saved my boys. Off to go reading now 😉 x

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  • February 12, 2016 at 6:23 pm
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    Wow – I can see why you were pleased to have something shared by someone in the public eye! I agree with you that it is great to have women speaking out about issues, even if I disagree with their view, as at least then it is being debated and brought to people's attention.(I think I did actually agree with Katie on one occasion!!) #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 6:23 pm
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    Wow – I can see why you were pleased to have something shared by someone in the public eye! I agree with you that it is great to have women speaking out about issues, even if I disagree with their view, as at least then it is being debated and brought to people's attention.(I think I did actually agree with Katie on one occasion!!) #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 7:14 pm
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    Having had a good friend have a C-section a week before I had a V birth with my twins, I saw first hand how long it took her to recover… way longer than me and I had twins. Not an easy option and I can't agree strongly enough that certain well known celebs would never be seen to talk about anything important. Well done you on getting Kirsty to retweet your post! xx #PicknMix

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  • February 12, 2016 at 7:14 pm
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    Having had a good friend have a C-section a week before I had a V birth with my twins, I saw first hand how long it took her to recover… way longer than me and I had twins. Not an easy option and I can't agree strongly enough that certain well known celebs would never be seen to talk about anything important. Well done you on getting Kirsty to retweet your post! xx #PicknMix

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  • February 12, 2016 at 7:40 pm
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    That's awesome to be tweeted by someone with such a following! I can only imagine your excitement. It was probably what mine would be 🙂 The other thing I couldn't imagine is Kim Kardashian talking about anything intelligent.

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  • February 12, 2016 at 7:40 pm
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    That's awesome to be tweeted by someone with such a following! I can only imagine your excitement. It was probably what mine would be 🙂 The other thing I couldn't imagine is Kim Kardashian talking about anything intelligent.

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  • February 12, 2016 at 7:55 pm
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    Ooh an endorsement from Kirstie A – how exciting. I really like what Kirstie has to say on childbirth. It's refreshingly honest and makes a pleasant change from the subtle pressures placed on women to strive for birth au natural. Not sure I'm with you on Katie H though. I think her motivations for being a mouthpiece are questionable. Think there are better female role models to call upon – though I agree that we should have more female spokespeople commenting on real issues in media.

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  • February 12, 2016 at 7:55 pm
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    Ooh an endorsement from Kirstie A – how exciting. I really like what Kirstie has to say on childbirth. It's refreshingly honest and makes a pleasant change from the subtle pressures placed on women to strive for birth au natural. Not sure I'm with you on Katie H though. I think her motivations for being a mouthpiece are questionable. Think there are better female role models to call upon – though I agree that we should have more female spokespeople commenting on real issues in media.

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  • February 12, 2016 at 8:27 pm
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    It's the mother's choice and you have to do what's best for Mummy and the baby. Who knows when those contractions start what's going to happen – my birth plan certainly went straight of the window! #fabfridaypost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 8:27 pm
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    It's the mother's choice and you have to do what's best for Mummy and the baby. Who knows when those contractions start what's going to happen – my birth plan certainly went straight of the window! #fabfridaypost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 8:32 pm
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    Good on you for writing about your C-sections, and for Kirstie for retweeting. I'm not a huge fan of everything Kirstie has said in the past, but I do agree with her on C-sections. I still feel awful about mine, which I know is silly as at the end of the day I have a healthy child so nothing to complain about, but I hate it when people talk about it as if it's the easy way out. Funny how they always seem to be people who haven't had one! #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 8:32 pm
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    Good on you for writing about your C-sections, and for Kirstie for retweeting. I'm not a huge fan of everything Kirstie has said in the past, but I do agree with her on C-sections. I still feel awful about mine, which I know is silly as at the end of the day I have a healthy child so nothing to complain about, but I hate it when people talk about it as if it's the easy way out. Funny how they always seem to be people who haven't had one! #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 9:34 pm
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    Congrats on the retweet! As for the other thing, I think it's all just part of our obsession with celebrity. There are so many women MPs, etc, out there who only get media time for their shoes or something as equally frivolous, yet 'pay per view' reality celebs like Katie Hopkins can get blanket coverage for everything they say. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for women standing up and making themselves heard, but until we support the women who already do that, I don't think we can expect other women to put themselves in the firing line. x #FabFridayPost

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  • February 12, 2016 at 9:34 pm
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    Congrats on the retweet! As for the other thing, I think it's all just part of our obsession with celebrity. There are so many women MPs, etc, out there who only get media time for their shoes or something as equally frivolous, yet 'pay per view' reality celebs like Katie Hopkins can get blanket coverage for everything they say. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for women standing up and making themselves heard, but until we support the women who already do that, I don't think we can expect other women to put themselves in the firing line. x #FabFridayPost

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  • February 13, 2016 at 10:45 am
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    Completely agree and congrats on the shout out from Kirstie! It's really disappointing when woman like Kim don't use their voice for the greater good. I actively do not watch shows like “Keeping up with the Kardashians” because I feel like it's supporting the rich getting richer with no real benefit to society, you could even argue that the show is bad for society but that's another story. Anyway, I'm reading “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, who advocates women leading for the greater good…well and for personal gains and equality in the workplace but still is a great read, you should check it out! #fabfridaypost

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  • February 13, 2016 at 10:45 am
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    Completely agree and congrats on the shout out from Kirstie! It's really disappointing when woman like Kim don't use their voice for the greater good. I actively do not watch shows like “Keeping up with the Kardashians” because I feel like it's supporting the rich getting richer with no real benefit to society, you could even argue that the show is bad for society but that's another story. Anyway, I'm reading “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, who advocates women leading for the greater good…well and for personal gains and equality in the workplace but still is a great read, you should check it out! #fabfridaypost

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  • February 14, 2016 at 11:50 pm
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    That's really cool of Alsopp to RT. What an women! & Congratulations by the way! That's Awesome! I just wish people like KH doesn't exist – Why? What is her purpose to the world? Sigh :/ I would love it of Cheryl did twit about George Osborne taxing my vagina – but I don't think that is in her. Great read. 🙂

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  • February 14, 2016 at 11:50 pm
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    That's really cool of Alsopp to RT. What an women! & Congratulations by the way! That's Awesome! I just wish people like KH doesn't exist – Why? What is her purpose to the world? Sigh :/ I would love it of Cheryl did twit about George Osborne taxing my vagina – but I don't think that is in her. Great read. 🙂

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  • February 15, 2016 at 9:35 pm
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    It is so very true- we need more women in influential positions influencing something! Even if it is not a hugely controversial topic!

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  • February 15, 2016 at 9:35 pm
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    It is so very true- we need more women in influential positions influencing something! Even if it is not a hugely controversial topic!

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  • February 17, 2016 at 11:41 pm
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    I hate how judgemental people can be about all sorts of aspects of parenting, they should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before presuming to know it all. Hope you got alot of views out of the tweet 🙂

    Stevie x #PicknMix

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  • February 17, 2016 at 11:41 pm
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    I hate how judgemental people can be about all sorts of aspects of parenting, they should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before presuming to know it all. Hope you got alot of views out of the tweet 🙂

    Stevie x #PicknMix

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