So it would seem Rachel Stevens has got herself a bit of a Mummy Bashing for leaving her kids in the car whilst ‘running some errands’. According to my sources  (the always accurate *cough cough* MailOnline) she left her four year old and eighteen month old unattended in the car for ten minutes. When I first read this I must say I was a bit astounded, on the surface it does sound quite irresponsible. But then I got to thinking about some of the stupid parenting choices I’ve made and got my large bottom off my rather high horse and checked myself before I wrecked myself.

In all honesty when I get petrol, if I can’t pay at the pump I leave Finley in the car whilst I go pay at the Kiosk. I do it for selfish reasons, solely because I can’t be arsed with getting him in and out of the car seat, getting him across the forecourt, telling him he can’t have any ‘ockolat’ because it’s 7.30am and then dealing with the inevitable shop floor meltdown. I reckon this is a similar reason that Rachel had, she probably just needed to quickly pop over to the Co-Op for tampons or something equally glamorous and it was just quicker and easier to make the dash alone.
Now a panic tampon dash is definitely something I can relate to and the hassle of hauling your kids along, I can sympathise with but is it ever really safe to leave your kids in the car unattended?

When I leave Finley to go pay for petrol, I can see him and he can see me. I am just a couple of metres away, I could get to him in a matter of seconds if I needed to. If somehow he got out his car seat and took the handbrake off or someone tried to get him, I would see it happening and be able to do something about it. I am gone for one or two minutes max, he doesn’t really have time to get bored or restless or worried. I lock the car and I tell him I’m going to pay and will be back in a minute, I also wave at him like a loon from the shop window. He’s fine about it, in fact he thinks it’s a game. If it ever upset him I wouldn’t do it.

However what I definitely wouldn’t do is leave him in a car park and go inside a shop. Apart from the obvious safety issues, I think that’s just a bit of a dick move to be honest. I mean it’s not very kind is it? Sure he can be an absolute nightmare in shops, the spawn of Satan, the Anti-Christ himself but he’s still my buddy, I can’t just go off without him!
So my conclusion is no, it’s not ok to leave kids unattended, out of sight in the car while you buy tampons go shopping.
What’s your view?
 

Disclaimer: this ‘Rachel Stevens incident’ has in no way affected my love for Sclub7.

 

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Is It Ever Ok to Leave Your Kids In The Car ?

30 thoughts on “Is It Ever Ok to Leave Your Kids In The Car ?

  • September 23, 2015 at 12:33 pm
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    I've left her to run in and pay for gas also. Can't think of any other time I'd consider it though

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  • September 23, 2015 at 12:33 pm
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    I've left her to run in and pay for gas also. Can't think of any other time I'd consider it though

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  • September 23, 2015 at 5:37 pm
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    I read recently an article about a woman who was traveling and she had to use the bathroom. Her child (I think 2?) had just fallen asleep in the back and if I remember correctly, he was not fond of long car trips. So to wake him up so she could go to the bathroom would have been disaster for her. Her thought wasn't so much about it being a dick move, but about nosey people thinking they know better calling the authorities on her and being in a world of trouble just because she needed to pee and didn't want to wake a sleeping baby. I can sympathize with that because who wants to wake a sleeping baby?? And if you need to pee, you need to pee. I think she said she ended up finding an isolated parking lot and went right outside her car door instead of using a bathroom at one of the secured service plaza's.

    I think on the whole, yes it's not the greatest option, but there may be exceptions to the rule.

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  • September 23, 2015 at 5:37 pm
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    I read recently an article about a woman who was traveling and she had to use the bathroom. Her child (I think 2?) had just fallen asleep in the back and if I remember correctly, he was not fond of long car trips. So to wake him up so she could go to the bathroom would have been disaster for her. Her thought wasn't so much about it being a dick move, but about nosey people thinking they know better calling the authorities on her and being in a world of trouble just because she needed to pee and didn't want to wake a sleeping baby. I can sympathize with that because who wants to wake a sleeping baby?? And if you need to pee, you need to pee. I think she said she ended up finding an isolated parking lot and went right outside her car door instead of using a bathroom at one of the secured service plaza's.

    I think on the whole, yes it's not the greatest option, but there may be exceptions to the rule.

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  • September 25, 2015 at 8:22 am
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    I'm probably going to get flamed her but I do occasionally leave the girls in the car while I dash into a shop- I probably leave them for up to 5 mins. They are 4 and 5 and if I leave them its at their request- sometimes they don't want to be dragged into lidl. They are very sensible, they know to keep the doors locked and that I won't be long. I realise not everybody would do this but if you met my 5 yr old you would understand she is super sensible and I trust them both implicitly – plus they can't unlock the car doors. I wouldn't leave a younger child and if the girls want to come in then they do. #picknmix

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  • September 25, 2015 at 8:22 am
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    I'm probably going to get flamed her but I do occasionally leave the girls in the car while I dash into a shop- I probably leave them for up to 5 mins. They are 4 and 5 and if I leave them its at their request- sometimes they don't want to be dragged into lidl. They are very sensible, they know to keep the doors locked and that I won't be long. I realise not everybody would do this but if you met my 5 yr old you would understand she is super sensible and I trust them both implicitly – plus they can't unlock the car doors. I wouldn't leave a younger child and if the girls want to come in then they do. #picknmix

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  • September 25, 2015 at 9:17 am
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    I think there are times and places with leaving kids in the car. I wouldn't do it at all here, but that's because it's so hot it takes seconds for a car to overheat, even with the AC on my kids come out the car seats sweaty so I dread to think what it would be like without AC! Thanks for linking to #effitfriday

    P.s. I'm glad your love of sclub7 remains in tact!

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  • September 25, 2015 at 9:17 am
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    I think there are times and places with leaving kids in the car. I wouldn't do it at all here, but that's because it's so hot it takes seconds for a car to overheat, even with the AC on my kids come out the car seats sweaty so I dread to think what it would be like without AC! Thanks for linking to #effitfriday

    P.s. I'm glad your love of sclub7 remains in tact!

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  • September 25, 2015 at 12:19 pm
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    Yes heat is a big safety issue – there's been a lot of that online recently – people leaving young babies in cars and other people having to smash windows to get them out.
    SCLUB FOR LIFE

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  • September 25, 2015 at 12:19 pm
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    Yes heat is a big safety issue – there's been a lot of that online recently – people leaving young babies in cars and other people having to smash windows to get them out.
    SCLUB FOR LIFE

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  • September 25, 2015 at 12:19 pm
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    Yes heat is a big safety issue – there's been a lot of that online recently – people leaving young babies in cars and other people having to smash windows to get them out.
    SCLUB FOR LIFE

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  • September 25, 2015 at 12:19 pm
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    Yes heat is a big safety issue – there's been a lot of that online recently – people leaving young babies in cars and other people having to smash windows to get them out.
    SCLUB FOR LIFE

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  • September 25, 2015 at 12:50 pm
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    I always leave mine like you to pay for petrol, you can see them and it just isn't worth the hassle. I would never leave them to pop into the shops – too much could happen, but I can see why people are tempted #picknmix

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  • September 25, 2015 at 12:50 pm
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    I always leave mine like you to pay for petrol, you can see them and it just isn't worth the hassle. I would never leave them to pop into the shops – too much could happen, but I can see why people are tempted #picknmix

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  • September 25, 2015 at 3:31 pm
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    Like you, I pay for petrol and leave kids in the car but I wouldn't leave them to got to the shops for ten minutes and esp not at the age of the children in question. That is just irresponsible IMO

    #effitfriday

    Gemma xxx

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  • September 25, 2015 at 3:31 pm
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    Like you, I pay for petrol and leave kids in the car but I wouldn't leave them to got to the shops for ten minutes and esp not at the age of the children in question. That is just irresponsible IMO

    #effitfriday

    Gemma xxx

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  • September 25, 2015 at 4:32 pm
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    I have left mine once to pay for gas (sorry, petrol!) and I could see him through the shop window when I went in but let me tell you – I was so paranoid for the entire transaction. I think it took all of 2 minutes to hand over the money but it felt an eternity. And it wasn't that I was overly worried something *bad* would happen but more of “If someone walks by, sees him alone, sees me come back out they are going to think I am the WORST MOTHER EVER!” In my mind, leaving them quickly like that, where you can still see them is fine but I would definitely never leave him alone to pop in to do shopping and he was out of sight. #effitfriday

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  • September 25, 2015 at 4:32 pm
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    I have left mine once to pay for gas (sorry, petrol!) and I could see him through the shop window when I went in but let me tell you – I was so paranoid for the entire transaction. I think it took all of 2 minutes to hand over the money but it felt an eternity. And it wasn't that I was overly worried something *bad* would happen but more of “If someone walks by, sees him alone, sees me come back out they are going to think I am the WORST MOTHER EVER!” In my mind, leaving them quickly like that, where you can still see them is fine but I would definitely never leave him alone to pop in to do shopping and he was out of sight. #effitfriday

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  • September 28, 2015 at 9:22 am
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    Like you, I leave mine in the car to pay for petrol. (they are 2 and 5) I've never left them out of sight to go anywhere as I just wouldn't feel comfortable with doing it. I can see why others would do it especially if they have older children #PicknMix

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  • September 28, 2015 at 9:22 am
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    Like you, I leave mine in the car to pay for petrol. (they are 2 and 5) I've never left them out of sight to go anywhere as I just wouldn't feel comfortable with doing it. I can see why others would do it especially if they have older children #PicknMix

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  • September 30, 2015 at 6:53 pm
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    I've left my sleeping baby in the car whilst running over the road to pick up my eldest from School. I did however ask a friend to watch her. I've also left them asleep in the car on the driveway obviously not on a hot day and well ventilated. I do think it epends on the context. There is a little shop in my local village where you can park outside the door and see the car through the window. I think that would be ok depending on the ages. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

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  • September 30, 2015 at 6:53 pm
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    I've left my sleeping baby in the car whilst running over the road to pick up my eldest from School. I did however ask a friend to watch her. I've also left them asleep in the car on the driveway obviously not on a hot day and well ventilated. I do think it epends on the context. There is a little shop in my local village where you can park outside the door and see the car through the window. I think that would be ok depending on the ages. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

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  • October 6, 2015 at 10:32 am
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    I just wouldn't. Ever. Its a simple as that. If they fell asleep and I needed to get out, I'd just sit and wait for them to wake up! I think leaving them just isn't an option in my mind. Thanks so much for linking up! #MMWBH

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  • October 6, 2015 at 10:32 am
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    I just wouldn't. Ever. Its a simple as that. If they fell asleep and I needed to get out, I'd just sit and wait for them to wake up! I think leaving them just isn't an option in my mind. Thanks so much for linking up! #MMWBH

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