I just want to lay this all out for you before I start talking about body image issues, at the time of writing I am a good size 14 – although this could all change on Friday night because I have a date with Dominoes….. Anyway have you now got an image in your mind of a slightly chubby Mum, in her PJ’s eating pizza and sipping a bottle of Bud? Great, that’s exactly what I’m going for – now we can begin…..

I have never in my life been on a diet, never and so yes inevitably, I am always going to be just a little bit fat. I’m alright about this and I believe that everyone near and dear to me is alright about it too.
It would appear, however that society is not. Thin is what is in fashion, it is the image that is subconsciously beamed into our brains everyday and it is the body type for which women in the Western World must aspire.
So when I see articles like this, I get excited ‘what are girls my size wearing? would it work for me? where can I buy it?’. I thought I’d be reading a really positive article about how no matter your shape or size – you can still be fashionable, attractive and sophisticated. Instead I got something else, something pretty negative and something that has missed the point entirely. This article in its desperate attempt to praise a larger body type, has gone about it by bashing the polar opposite.

“But there’s one big difference: advancing towards the flashbulbs is not the usual army of half-starved waifs, but beautiful women of all shapes and sizes.”

Why in order to celebrate one type of women, must we berate another?

“Instead of the familiar pigeon-toed trot of the runway professional, a hip-swaying, boob-jiggling, bottom-quaking strut. Instead of pale, veiny legs and protruding collar-bones, there is luscious, velvety skin, soft folds of back fat and yards and yards of glossy hair.”

So now we’re saying that thin women are ugly?
Can we not have two different types of women and hold them in equal regard? Why do we, as women feel the need to compete and judge each other?

 I don’t know is it just me? I think both these women look great.
Now according to the NHS BMI calculator, I am ‘overweight’. To be in the healthy range I would need to lose 1 stone and 6lbs. Ok fair do’s, we must acknowledge that weight is a big factor to your health. Whether that be under or over, it is factual that an extreme of either is not good for you.

The funny thing for me about all this though, is that when I was at my ‘healthiest’ in terms of body weight, I was also at my ‘unhealthiest’ in terms of mental wellness. Six years ago when I was a Size 10 and had a nice all round healthy BMI verdict, I was miserable as fuck and had no clue who I was or where I was going. I look back at photos of myself and I think ‘yes, you do look skinny but you were so very sad and so incredibly stressed out’.
I think that what I’m getting at is, just because someone is thin or fat or somewhere in between it is not conducive to who they are, how they are or what they are feeling.
I’m currently a bit fat, which implies I’m unhappy right? But I reckon I’m the happiest I’ve been with myself in a decade. I’m well loved, well fed and pretty contented with my lot.
So don’t worry too much about all this fat, thin, thigh gap crap. If you like you, other people will like you – just the way you are.

I’m Always Going to be Just a Little Bit Fat

44 thoughts on “I’m Always Going to be Just a Little Bit Fat

  • September 16, 2015 at 9:44 am
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    Well said! I too could be called “a little bit fat” but I am in the best place I have ever been emotionally. So what's the harm! Love yourself the way you are! Great uplifting post 🙂 #MMWBH

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  • September 16, 2015 at 9:44 am
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    Well said! I too could be called “a little bit fat” but I am in the best place I have ever been emotionally. So what's the harm! Love yourself the way you are! Great uplifting post 🙂 #MMWBH

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  • September 16, 2015 at 10:46 am
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    You and me, sister. Loving the date with Dominoes and the number 14 ringing true for me, too. But you're right; body image is tough enough sometimes without us having to put each other down…and I do so love Bridget Jones! Have a slice (or two) for me! #MMWBH

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  • September 16, 2015 at 10:46 am
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    You and me, sister. Loving the date with Dominoes and the number 14 ringing true for me, too. But you're right; body image is tough enough sometimes without us having to put each other down…and I do so love Bridget Jones! Have a slice (or two) for me! #MMWBH

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  • September 16, 2015 at 7:01 pm
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    You are so right. Size is nothing but a number, and shouldn't be conducive to judgement of any kind. We have a tough enough time with the glass ceiling and other women related issues. We should be encouraging each other, giving support–no matter what our size indicates. Thank you for a powerful reminder, and for your inspiring words.

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  • September 16, 2015 at 7:01 pm
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    You are so right. Size is nothing but a number, and shouldn't be conducive to judgement of any kind. We have a tough enough time with the glass ceiling and other women related issues. We should be encouraging each other, giving support–no matter what our size indicates. Thank you for a powerful reminder, and for your inspiring words.

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  • September 17, 2015 at 12:23 pm
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    So true, we are all more than just a dress size and judging others because they're fat, thin, whatever is just stupid. We've bigger problems to deal with! #mmwbh

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  • September 17, 2015 at 12:23 pm
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    So true, we are all more than just a dress size and judging others because they're fat, thin, whatever is just stupid. We've bigger problems to deal with! #mmwbh

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  • September 18, 2015 at 11:18 am
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    Well said. Its time we judged people on their actions rather than their shapes! #effitfriday
    Debbie

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  • September 18, 2015 at 11:18 am
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    Well said. Its time we judged people on their actions rather than their shapes! #effitfriday
    Debbie

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  • September 18, 2015 at 12:17 pm
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    Well said. I entirely agree – it's not okay either way. Within the realms of thinner people, you have three basic groups: those who are naturally slim, those who put work into maintaining a slim but healthy figure, and those who are unhealthy thin which is a sign of illness (whether being too thin is the illness or is a symptom of a different illness). None of those people should be villified any more than people who are overweight should be. Anyone who actively promotes unhealthy skinniness as something people should aspire to should be criticised for that behaviour, of course, but so should anyone who actively promotes obesity. Neither extreme is something to be encouraged because it is damaging to health and emotional well being. But in the sliding scale of weight, there are plenty of people just a little over or a little under the average, and they are really unlikely to be that much less healthy for it. It's not worth making a fuss about or making people feel bad about. Energy should be saved for support for those who have serious weight issues at either end of the spectrum. But support does not mean writing insults about them.

    That article could, as you say, have focused on the positives of the event she was at, negative comparisons did not need to be drawn. A lot of those thin models are probably not healthy. But they are young, vulnerable and under a lot of pressure that undermines their self esteem as it is – they are not the ones who should be villified or insulted here.

    &, yes, being a little overweight is no indication that someone is, or should be, unhappy. Nor is being slim an indication that someone is vain, judgemental or shallow, and I think that is also a personality stereotype that people tend to make. #PicknMix

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  • September 18, 2015 at 12:17 pm
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    Well said. I entirely agree – it's not okay either way. Within the realms of thinner people, you have three basic groups: those who are naturally slim, those who put work into maintaining a slim but healthy figure, and those who are unhealthy thin which is a sign of illness (whether being too thin is the illness or is a symptom of a different illness). None of those people should be villified any more than people who are overweight should be. Anyone who actively promotes unhealthy skinniness as something people should aspire to should be criticised for that behaviour, of course, but so should anyone who actively promotes obesity. Neither extreme is something to be encouraged because it is damaging to health and emotional well being. But in the sliding scale of weight, there are plenty of people just a little over or a little under the average, and they are really unlikely to be that much less healthy for it. It's not worth making a fuss about or making people feel bad about. Energy should be saved for support for those who have serious weight issues at either end of the spectrum. But support does not mean writing insults about them.

    That article could, as you say, have focused on the positives of the event she was at, negative comparisons did not need to be drawn. A lot of those thin models are probably not healthy. But they are young, vulnerable and under a lot of pressure that undermines their self esteem as it is – they are not the ones who should be villified or insulted here.

    &, yes, being a little overweight is no indication that someone is, or should be, unhappy. Nor is being slim an indication that someone is vain, judgemental or shallow, and I think that is also a personality stereotype that people tend to make. #PicknMix

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  • September 18, 2015 at 3:59 pm
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    Awesomely put! I am the somewhere in between person and I have articles who try to tackle weight but don't really get their point across. I mean, if you're too thin, people think you're anorexic, if you're too heavy, people think you're lazy. We do need to stop judging each other as women. Thanks so much for sharing this! visiting from #effitfriday

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  • September 18, 2015 at 3:59 pm
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    Awesomely put! I am the somewhere in between person and I have articles who try to tackle weight but don't really get their point across. I mean, if you're too thin, people think you're anorexic, if you're too heavy, people think you're lazy. We do need to stop judging each other as women. Thanks so much for sharing this! visiting from #effitfriday

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  • September 18, 2015 at 5:46 pm
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    Love, love, love this! I am currently on a diet (nearly 2.5 stone down) and do you know what my goal dress size is? A Size 14… I am exercising and eating healthier and actual I think a size 14 is a great and sexy dress size. Life is about balance.
    #picknmix

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  • September 18, 2015 at 5:46 pm
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    Love, love, love this! I am currently on a diet (nearly 2.5 stone down) and do you know what my goal dress size is? A Size 14… I am exercising and eating healthier and actual I think a size 14 is a great and sexy dress size. Life is about balance.
    #picknmix

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  • September 18, 2015 at 8:18 pm
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    Completely agree, we just all have to stop judging each other! It sounds like you are pretty healthy as you are.

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  • September 18, 2015 at 8:18 pm
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    Completely agree, we just all have to stop judging each other! It sounds like you are pretty healthy as you are.

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  • September 19, 2015 at 2:19 pm
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    Great post and totally agree. Love it when women write about body image, so important to talk about this stuff. Well done. #WeekendBlogHop

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  • September 19, 2015 at 2:19 pm
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    Great post and totally agree. Love it when women write about body image, so important to talk about this stuff. Well done. #WeekendBlogHop

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  • September 19, 2015 at 6:16 pm
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    This is fab 🙂 Absolutely right – I have been super unhealthy but skinny and super healthy but chubby! My husband is technically morbidly obese on his BMI because he's 6'5 and used to be a rugby player. He's (almost!) all muscle – but that's the problem with the BMI indicator – it doesn't take that into account – just weight in general. The best indicator of how healthy you are, in my opinion, is how you feel. Love all the Bridget Jones pics too – blooming love that film 🙂 #effitfriday

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  • September 19, 2015 at 6:16 pm
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    This is fab 🙂 Absolutely right – I have been super unhealthy but skinny and super healthy but chubby! My husband is technically morbidly obese on his BMI because he's 6'5 and used to be a rugby player. He's (almost!) all muscle – but that's the problem with the BMI indicator – it doesn't take that into account – just weight in general. The best indicator of how healthy you are, in my opinion, is how you feel. Love all the Bridget Jones pics too – blooming love that film 🙂 #effitfriday

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  • September 19, 2015 at 8:41 pm
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    Oh Sarah well said. I love that the larger curvier woman is finally 'in fashion' but as you say, why be down on people who are slim. I'm what is regarded as slim and have been pretty much all my life apart from my uni days. My BMI is usually on the low side and I've even blacked out a few times in the past because I was too underweight. Not because of dieting but it's just the way my body is. I've had to put up with 'skinny' comments and aunts rather vocally asking why I'm 'so thin' with a look of distaste on their face! People are just plain rude when it comes to body image much of the time. Live and let live. Thanks ever so much for linking up to #effitfriday.

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  • September 19, 2015 at 8:41 pm
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    Oh Sarah well said. I love that the larger curvier woman is finally 'in fashion' but as you say, why be down on people who are slim. I'm what is regarded as slim and have been pretty much all my life apart from my uni days. My BMI is usually on the low side and I've even blacked out a few times in the past because I was too underweight. Not because of dieting but it's just the way my body is. I've had to put up with 'skinny' comments and aunts rather vocally asking why I'm 'so thin' with a look of distaste on their face! People are just plain rude when it comes to body image much of the time. Live and let live. Thanks ever so much for linking up to #effitfriday.

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  • September 20, 2015 at 8:11 pm
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    I love this! I think there's so much pressure on people to be a particular way, and then it seems the only way we can say “it's ok to be a bit bigger” is to say “well who wants to be all skinny and bony like her any way!” Why can't we work on being happy with who we are, and our clothes size being a byproduct of our being happy and healthy!
    Brilliant post. Thanks for linking up with the Weekend Blog Share.

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  • September 20, 2015 at 8:11 pm
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    I love this! I think there's so much pressure on people to be a particular way, and then it seems the only way we can say “it's ok to be a bit bigger” is to say “well who wants to be all skinny and bony like her any way!” Why can't we work on being happy with who we are, and our clothes size being a byproduct of our being happy and healthy!
    Brilliant post. Thanks for linking up with the Weekend Blog Share.

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  • September 22, 2015 at 9:04 pm
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    I hate the words fat and skinny! They can both be hurtful. I don't like how women are judged by their weight all the time. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

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  • September 22, 2015 at 9:04 pm
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    I hate the words fat and skinny! They can both be hurtful. I don't like how women are judged by their weight all the time. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

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  • October 8, 2015 at 9:04 pm
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    Brilliant! I am a size 12, over the past few years I've gone from an 18-20 to a 12. I still have a mummy tummy, but I'm happy. I'm the happiest I've been in a long time. I think it's all about how YOU feel about your own body, what's it matter to anyone else anyway? I don't think it's necessary to bash any women, we should all stick together because regardless of size we are all women. We can do wondrous things when we stick together. Remember suffragette? 🙂

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  • October 8, 2015 at 9:04 pm
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    Brilliant! I am a size 12, over the past few years I've gone from an 18-20 to a 12. I still have a mummy tummy, but I'm happy. I'm the happiest I've been in a long time. I think it's all about how YOU feel about your own body, what's it matter to anyone else anyway? I don't think it's necessary to bash any women, we should all stick together because regardless of size we are all women. We can do wondrous things when we stick together. Remember suffragette? 🙂

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  • November 3, 2015 at 7:16 am
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    Well said – I am just a little bit fat but I don't believe in dieting. I believe in eating healthily and exercise. And cake. I believe in cake a lot.

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  • November 3, 2015 at 7:16 am
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    Well said – I am just a little bit fat but I don't believe in dieting. I believe in eating healthily and exercise. And cake. I believe in cake a lot.

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