Ten months into my blogging education and whilst I have learnt an awful lot, I do not profess to knowing even the half of it! However in this short space of time I believe I have now conquered the basics – how to write a reasonably engaging post, how to use IFTTT, how to add a link to a linky, how to promote and share my blog.
Increasingly however, as the months ticked by it became apparent to me that the basics of blogging where not all technical, not even all about writing. It was also about being active in the blogging community. Although it is on the most part virtual and can seem unreal at times, you should behave within it as you would in normal, everyday life- like with your neighbours or your friends. For example, if I invited you to my house for dinner and you didn’t bring wine,
you wouldn’t get invited back don’t be vexed when I turn up at yours next week without a bottle. Or if we meet up for lunch and you spend the whole time talking about yourself, your job, your children, your life and do not ask after me and mine or let me get a word in edge-ways, don’t be surprised if I don’t feel like meeting up with you again for a while.
Don’t ask bloggers that you don’t read, don’t interact with to share your content. It’s just plain rude. It’s like asking someone random on the street for a cigarette or to use their mobile phone, its tacky. If I don’t know you I’m not going to share your content, because I don’t know you. And the thing is if I came across your post organically through a linky or hashtag and I liked it, I would share it anyway and so will others -so promote your pieces the right way and get involved.
Now hands up, as a new blogger I was guilty of this for sure. At first I didn’t really get linkys, I thought I could just link my post, make a few brief comments and my job was done. No, no, no. First of all, if you want people to come to your party – you’ve got to invite them and commenting is a great way to do this. I cannot tell you how many great blogs and bloggers I have found (and now regularly read) through their great comments on one of my own posts. Comments that actually spark a conversation or a bit of banter. If you drop by someones blog and just leave the comment “Great post!”, you’re a dick. Sorry but you are. I know you’re here under false pretences, for back links or under the duress of a linky rule. I know you didn’t read my post and I’m not going to publish your crap comment.
There is a fine line between congratulating yourself and being a toss pot. I’m an advocate for self confidence, you should promote your posts, you should share your achievements, you should be proud – you work hard, you deserve it. But what you shouldn’t do is ram them down everyone’s throat until they are sick to death of hearing about you. Have some class, no one likes a show off. There is also the point to make that if you really are doing that well, you don’t need to shout it from the roof tops – because it will be in plain sight for everyone to see. So if you’ve written a great post tell us about it, if you’ve been nominated for an award let us know but don’t bang on about page views and stats and followers, aside from being cringe worthy – its a terribly dull read!
Harassment Pop Ups
It drives me loopy when I hop over to read a post because I’ve seen a great title or picture that has intrigued me, only to be met with pop up after pop up. Believe me, if I want to follow you on Instagram or Facebook I will. I will go out of my way to find you because I have an interest in what you have to say and no amount of pop up harassment will change that. In fact what tends to happen is I give up, move on and never end up reading the post in the first place. Just like in real life, don’t make it hard for people to like you.
So they are my tips on how not to be dick in the blogosphere. I’ve done them all at one point or another! It’s all trial and error – it’s all a learning curve. But the great thing about blogging is that there aren’t really any set rules and anyone that tells you there are is an idiot. So just be genuine, don’t be afraid to break the mold and above all – don’t be a dick!