Ten months into my blogging education and whilst I have learnt an awful lot, I do not profess to knowing even the half of it! However in this short space of time I believe I have now conquered the basics – how to write a reasonably engaging post, how to use IFTTT, how to add a link to a linky, how to promote and share my blog.

Increasingly however, as the months ticked by it became apparent to me that the basics of blogging where not all technical, not even all about writing. It was also about being active in the blogging community. Although it is on the most part virtual and can seem unreal at times, you should behave within it as you would in normal, everyday life- like with your neighbours or your friends. For example, if I invited you to my house for dinner and you didn’t bring  wine, you wouldn’t get invited back  don’t be vexed when I turn up at yours next week without a bottle. Or if we meet up for lunch and you spend the whole time talking about yourself, your job, your children, your life and do not ask after me and mine or let me get a word in edge-ways, don’t be surprised if I don’t feel like meeting up with you again for a while.

Shameless Requests

Don’t ask bloggers that you don’t read, don’t interact with to share your content. It’s just plain rude. It’s like asking someone random on the street for a cigarette or to use their mobile phone, its tacky. If I don’t know you I’m not going to share your content, because I don’t know you. And the thing is if I came across your post organically through a linky or hashtag and I liked it, I would share it anyway and so will others  -so promote your pieces the right way and get involved.

Crap Comments

Now hands up, as a new blogger I was guilty of this for sure. At first I didn’t really get linkys, I thought I could just link my post, make a few brief comments and my job was done. No, no, no. First of all, if you want people to come to your party – you’ve got to invite them and commenting is a great way to do this. I cannot tell you how many great blogs and bloggers I have found (and now regularly read) through their great comments on one of my own posts. Comments that actually spark a conversation or a bit of banter. If you drop by someones blog and just leave the comment “Great post!”, you’re a dick. Sorry but you are. I know you’re here under false pretences, for back links or under the duress of a linky rule. I know you didn’t read my post and I’m not going to publish your crap comment.

Embarrassing Boasting

There is a fine line between congratulating yourself and being a toss pot. I’m an advocate for self confidence, you should promote your posts, you should share your achievements, you should be proud – you work hard, you deserve it. But what you shouldn’t do is ram them down everyone’s throat until they are sick to death of hearing about you. Have some class, no one likes a show off. There is also the point to make that if you really are doing that well, you don’t need to shout it from the roof tops – because it will be in plain sight for everyone to see. So if you’ve written a great post tell us about it, if you’ve been nominated for an award let us know but don’t bang on about page views and stats and followers, aside from being cringe worthy – its a terribly dull read!

Harassment Pop Ups 

It drives me loopy when I hop over to read a post because I’ve seen a great title or picture that has intrigued me, only to be met with pop up after pop up. Believe me, if I want to follow you on Instagram or Facebook I will. I will go out of my way to find you because I have an interest in what you have to say and no amount of pop up harassment will change that. In fact what tends to happen is I give up, move on and never end up reading the post in the first place. Just like in real life, don’t make it hard for people to like you.

So they are my tips on how not to be dick in the blogosphere. I’ve done them all at one point or another! It’s all trial and error – it’s all a learning curve. But the great thing about blogging is that there aren’t really any set rules and anyone that tells you there are is an idiot. So just be genuine, don’t be afraid to break the mold and above all – don’t be a dick!

Blogging 101: How Not To Be A Dick

56 thoughts on “Blogging 101: How Not To Be A Dick

  • May 16, 2016 at 5:34 pm
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    Great blog!

    #doingtheminimumrequiredforthepurposeofmeetinglinkyrules

    I jest. I like your idea of not publishing the ‘great blog’ empty comments.

    I make a point of trying to leave meaningful comments and would rather say nothing than write a ‘will this do’ comment. It’s part of the reason I don’t send cards. I can’t do a ‘to you from me’ number.

    Also, only 10 months? Really? I’m surprised.

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    • May 26, 2016 at 5:57 pm
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      Haha! Yep I just hit BIN – it’s not contributing anything so what’s the point? I’m not collecting a comment quota – I’m interested in what people have to say in response to my nonsense! I’m rubbish with cards too ! Yep only ten months and still no clue! Fun tho x

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  • May 17, 2016 at 7:37 pm
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    Great post…
    But seriously, you hit the nail on the head. I’m pretty new to this blogging lark (3months) and there is a whole minefield of bloggers etiquette to wade through. I’ve found that if you want to build your blog/following you need good, consistent content and you need to genuinely engage with people.

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  • May 19, 2016 at 9:18 am
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    So true 🙂 Treat other people the way you’d like to be treated – nice comments, shares, take an interest, watch and learn – it’ll all come together.

    But we’ve all been dicks at some point! Realising that is part of how you learn not to be one. And hopefully pay that forward to save someone else from doing the same thing.

    Another great post that I shared.

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  • May 22, 2016 at 7:54 pm
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    Well said! As a newbie I’m making these as my rules to go by, although I do try and leave decent comments, they don’t always work out that decent!
    Your obviously doing very well in only 10 months! I can’t believe it!

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  • May 26, 2016 at 5:08 pm
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    Absolutely right! visiting other blogs is something that I try to do more of, sometimes it feels like you’re avoiding working on your own blog but in fact the opposite is true – you’re finding ideas, meeting other bloggers, all that good stuff. Great post 🙂

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  • June 16, 2016 at 6:37 am
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    PAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Great post 😉

    Nah, in all seriousness this is spot on and I’ll be honest here, it took me a long time to get my head around blogging etiquette and I know I’ve been a dick on more than one occasion! But can I just say, I totally agree with you re pop ups and subscription requests. SO ANNOYING. I want to read your content not sign my life (or e-mail address) away to something. #stayclassy

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  • June 16, 2016 at 6:59 am
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    Yes, guilty as charged for the comments, and I agree about all the rest too. I’ve found being a new mother in a new neighbourhood lonely and the blogging community have become a new set of friends to me and I know how important it is to be not just polite, but genuine. #StayClassyMama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 7:37 am
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    I agree with this post completely. I’ve only been ‘mummy blogging’ for 2 months but I’ve noticed really quickly that you just need to be polite. It sucks when you spend loads of time commenting on blogs and the blog owner doesn’t comment back or even like the comment- just courtesy. Ok-that’s my rant satisfied! Haha #stayclassy

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    • June 16, 2016 at 6:31 pm
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      Lol thanks for your response- tbh I’m rubbish at commenting back to comments – I read them and love them but I just run out of time. However as I say it’s all a learning curve and there’s always room for improvement- thanks for joining us #stayclassymama

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      • June 16, 2016 at 6:36 pm
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        I think it’s different when you run a linky though you must get so much traffic etc you’d be constantly on your phone! 🙂

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  • June 16, 2016 at 8:42 am
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    Don’t be a dick! That really should be blogger real no1. I’m only a newbie, just three weeks in and learning tons the last few weeks, especially from bloggers like you and posts like this. Blogging has taken over my life but I love it and I want to do it right. The blogging community is sooooo supportive, I really can’t get over it. I never knew I’d be in contact with so many incredible people #stayclassymama

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    • June 16, 2016 at 11:00 am
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      Oooo someone as new as I am to the blogging world, I was beginning to think I may be alone and everyone else is months ahead of me!

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      • June 16, 2016 at 11:42 am
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        We’re definitely not on our own 🙂

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  • June 16, 2016 at 9:22 am
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    This is handy to know, as I’m new and still learning loads, so I would hate to come across as a dick lol! I love reading blogs, Its why I started my own, and I frequently visit some just because (as you say) I genuinely like reading them… I won’t comment though if I genuinely don’t have something half decent to say, because your right, It adds nothing!

    I do love a linky though, its the easiest way to read and see my favs and read some I’ve never read before… does doing lots of linkys make me a dick too lol? (god, please say no!) 🙂 #stayclassymama (p.s I got a bit nervous to leave a comment after reading your paragraph above on commenting haha)

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  • June 16, 2016 at 8:48 am
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    Hahah I laughed out loud at this! “Great post!” is the worst isn’t it? I never thought about not publishing them before but I think that’s what I will do from now on. I’m with you on the cringy “Look how fabulous I am!” posts too. I have no interest whatsoever in reading a list of stats, some of which are probably fabricated, and if your blog really IS that amazing, then let me be the judge of that!! Cant believe you’ve only been blogging for ten months though, amazing! #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 9:01 am
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    I’m new to this and I must be honest I don’t get linkys and my blog doesn’t seem to fit many, or maybe that’s me being too self conscious about it. I mostly just read them, especially if I have to do something technical like add an image to my blog post, I can’t always get it to work lol. I totally, totally agree with the pop ups though, they give me the rage, there is no need, especially if it’s not obvious how to get rid of it.

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  • June 16, 2016 at 9:21 am
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    This is really useful advice, we are new too – only 6 months and feel like we are still just finding our feet. Everything you’ve said is spot on and I fear we may have been dicks in the past, but only due to not really knowing the etiquette! Your words have cemented what we have been discovering. So thanks!!
    #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 9:24 am
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    The pop ups drive me totally crazy too, all I want to do is read and it takes ages to get there by the time I’ve finished closing the rubbish down! I’m completely new to blogging and have already been asked a few times to share the content of random strangers. I’m glad you touched on that because in some ways I felt a little rude not doing so. Like you say though, I’m always reading new blogs and actively sharing anything I have loved, just not anything and everything that’s pops up. Truly though this is a great post, I feel I have definitely learnt more from it!

    #StayClassyMama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 10:03 am
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    This is great and made me laugh! It’s disappointing when you join linkys and spend time commenting on loads of posts to only get one on your own. Grrr! I always try and make sure I post a proper comment…I’m now wondering if I’m ever a dick though…. #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 10:59 am
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    Love this! The one thing that really turns me off is all the pop up email subscription requests. That’s why I don’t have one! Blogging is amazing and fun and there’s a great community out there if you take the time to read and admire other folks posts. I love being invited to your linky every week – there’s always great content to read!
    #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 11:03 am
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    I loved reading this post, I am new to blogging, less than two weeks and this is my fear of being a dick! (Almost said duck with bloom in spell checker, I don’t have a fear of being a duck honest!) Your post is great for newbies like me and realised just how many of us there are from the comments alone. #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 1:53 pm
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    Agree with most of these, but I have to say that although “great post” is a bit lame, there are reasonable times when just “well said” is appropriate. Pop ups, though, those are the worst. #stayclassy

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  • June 16, 2016 at 2:19 pm
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    Great post! Only joking…
    Good advice – I’m a seriously slack blogger (I’m blaming the baby) and only just getting into the community side of it (in a small way anyway), but it’s awesome. It’s like having a secret little social life. #StayClassyMama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 1:25 pm
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    Writing a crap comment is definitely a dick move. It’s like, yeah, I get it – you’re just trying to get through this linky stuff as quickly as possible. I’m not a big fan of pop-ups either. It’s like you said – if I want to subscribe to your blog/follow you on social media, I’m pretty sure I can figure out how to do that without you shoving a window in my face.

    It can be hard to know if you’re following the right blogging rules sometimes, but as long as you treat people and their writing with respect, you’re probably going to be fine. #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 3:16 pm
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    I have now re-written this comment 5 times trying not to be a dick! (fail FFS!)

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  • June 16, 2016 at 3:46 pm
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    Funny yet helpful 🙂 good use of the word toss-pot also! And so true, super glad to be part of the online blogger family, everyone helping each other, feel the love baby! #stayclassy

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  • June 16, 2016 at 3:53 pm
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    I entirely agree with all of these. Nothing worse than getting all excited that somebody has commented on your blog only to discover they have said ‘Great post’ and stuck a link to their own site just to add insult to injury. I’d also add automated Twitter DMs, they irritate me too. It DOES NOT make me more likely to read someone’s blog! And I definitely find posts all about stats and achievements pretty boring. Stats in general bore me and that’s no different in the blogosphere. #StayClassyMama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 5:29 pm
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    I’m sure I’ve commented on this post but I don’t see it, I hope I’m not guilty of a read-and-run!! All very sensible and polite rules for bloggers, this should be sent to everyone the minute they sign up to a blogging platform! #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 7:16 pm
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    So very true I hate pop ups and don’t really like requests as I believe in free choice but can be hard especially.with having to follow linky rules. I try to be geniue though X #stayclassymama

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  • June 16, 2016 at 9:46 pm
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    Love this 🙂 as a newbie blogger (who has no idea what she’s doing) this will be my holy grail of blogger etiquette guidelines…..note to self…do not be a dick!

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  • June 16, 2016 at 10:35 pm
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    Great post, agree with all of your points especially the pop ups – they drive me mad too! I didn’t really you’d only been blogging for 10 months, you’ve done amazingly! #StayClassy

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  • June 17, 2016 at 6:04 am
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    Pop us driver me crazy. Especially on my phone. I can’t get rid of them. And if I can get rid of them I can’t read the rest of the post, or comment, so I’m not going to share. I think I might actually have to see someone about my pop up hate. It’s turning into rage! #StayclassyMamma

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  • June 17, 2016 at 6:50 am
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    Great Post!

    Ha ha ha……these are all good points, I have to say I have probably been guilt of the comment one, not cause I’m trying to get through linky duty quickly but because sometimes I want to comply with linky rules and be supportive but the post is very specific and I really am not sure what else to say! I try my hardest to write something interesting though

    #stayclassymama

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  • June 17, 2016 at 1:25 pm
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    think im guilty of some of those *blushes furiously*. Im my defence I’m only a month in. Can’t believe you’re not even at it a year. Youre my inspiration *sings*

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  • June 18, 2016 at 12:18 am
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    Back again for #StayClassyMama

    The whole thing with pop ups is REALLY annoying when browsing on phone (which is how I generally do blog duty) as it obscures the page.

    *Reads posts again* oh! Did I break the not being a dick rule about stats? It was one post!

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  • June 18, 2016 at 3:14 am
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    good on you!!!! you make some great points and give awesome non-dicky advice here! It is so true why would you ask someone to share when they don’t know you. Share the stuff you love #stayclassymama

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  • June 18, 2016 at 2:40 pm
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    Hahha! So glad I am seemingly doing ok with my newbie-ness!! I also am getting slightly irritated with pop us. Like you say, if we want to follow on other mediums then we will choose to do so!

    Thanks for sharing!
    #stayclassymama

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  • June 18, 2016 at 2:49 pm
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    Ive definitely been a dick at times! sorrrrrrrrrrrry 🙁
    Its hard when your mid comment and one of your kids distracts you so you think ill do that later but then later never comes. Then when you do get back on the computer something else happens…i try soo hard! I do engage and chat loads on twitter though as its quick and easy so please know if ive forgotten to comment on a post i often just tag the person or share to twitter.
    #stayclassymama

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  • June 18, 2016 at 7:23 pm
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    The pop-up thing is SO annoying. I read most blogs on my slightly crappy phone and it gas a hiss fit every time a pop-up, um pops-up.
    I have this theory about men (stay with me) that if they’re still a dick post 21 then they’re a dick for life. Do you reckon there is a similar thing for bloggers? You get a period of grace when people forgive you for dickishness and then you’re a goner? #stayclassymama

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  • June 18, 2016 at 7:27 pm
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    I love this!! -Though, I too, am guilty of being a dick at one point or another haha. Seriously though, the popups are AWFUL!!! I do a lot of my blog reading on my iPad, and the constant popups make me want to pull my hair out-especially when I try and hit the ‘x’ and it opens the ad anyway -_-
    Great post!! Blogging etiquette really is so important <3 #StayClassy

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  • June 18, 2016 at 7:27 pm
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    I was going to write “Great post, Ha Ha, just kidding” but I see others have already beaten me to it. See, I even read other comments sometimes 😉

    I do agree with you on most of your points though especially the pop ups. So annoying when you’re trying to read someone’s content and you keep getting interrupted with pop ups saying ‘follow my blog’ or ‘follow me on twitter’ etc. If it happens more than a couple of times I get fed up and leave the blog too. As for stats, I honestly never even look at mine.

    #stayclassymama

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  • June 20, 2016 at 12:51 pm
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    You are so right Sarah. I’m sure we are all guilty of doing some blogging faux pas at some point but the key is once you realise what you should and should not be doing just make sure you don’t do them again. There are a few things you mentioned that are some of my pet hates. One is the pop ups. Just like you they put me off and if i can’t get rid of them fast enough I don’t even bother reading the article anymore. The second one is the crap comments. People are not forced to comment so if they do they should make it meaningful and RELATED TO THE POST! #stayclassymama

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  • June 21, 2016 at 6:19 am
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    Love this. We really do need to be respectful of each other in the blogging community, just because it’s online doesn’t mean that it isn’t REAL haha. I think commenting is an important one and YES the pop ups drive me crazy! On the commenting, I would have to say in the beginning I didn’t realise how important they were but have come to realise it’s how you keep readers (or friends even) coming back! : ) You so classy lol ; ) #StayClassyMama

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  • June 22, 2016 at 12:41 pm
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    Great post…. 😉 Sorry, that one’s hard to resist! All good tips! What is with those instagram and facebook pop ups at the moment?? There have always been the subscribe ones & the advert ones & those are both annoying, but suddenly there are these facebook & instagram bastard things everywhere! Funnily enough, it has NEVER occurred to me to just delete the rubbish comments & not publish them until I read this. That’s actually a good idea! While I wouldn’t not publish a comment just because it disagrees with me, as long as it is polite, I’m not quite sure why I feel obligated to publish the comments that have had no effort put in. Disagreement is still an effort to read and add something, but ‘great post’ is zero effort so actually there is no reason to feel like you should publish it, is there? I don’t like all the tweets asking you to read & share when you’ve never heard of the person either – I would never even dare try that! Interestingly, it seems to be more of a thing of really new bloggers. I find that even more bizarre – if you’re completely new, where do you get the confidence to be that pushy? & where are they picking up the idea that is what you should do when most experienced bloggers don’t seem to do it or approve of it? #StayClassyMama

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  • September 6, 2016 at 3:08 am
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    Lol! What a great read! I’m fairly new to this (exactly a week today) and just realised that was exactly what I was doing! The whole ‘Beautiful!’ and ‘Great Read’ comments but only because I was thinking if I over expressed myself or said anymore that person would probably think I was random! See, I actually thought only your invited followers were allowed to comment lol! So… Great Read! #Stillfindingmyway!

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  • September 8, 2016 at 12:28 pm
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    I have come across this at the right time for me. I only discovered linkies a couple of weeks ago and I’m on a very steep learning curve. Thank you for telling it ‘like it is’ – I don’t do subtle!

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  • September 22, 2016 at 11:42 am
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    Thanks for this post. I’m three weeks into blogging and still figuring out how the blog world works. And I feel very strongly about not being a dick! 😉

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